Whew, I have gone through A LOT this year! We ALL have.  While my stamina is impressive, the nonstop juggling of my life in the midst of an ongoing pandemic has left me with little energy left to care for myself! I am using a lot of time to search for encouraging life advice as I navigate my day-to-day. We are all worthy of comfort, love, and nurturance.  We deserve it.  We are worth it. 

So today, I am sharing a post that I like with you because I want to.  I am trying to change my thinking from negative to positive.  So far, it still defaults to negative. Haha. A work in progress.

But, also, today, I have been thinking about another matter a lot – PARIS.  I love Paris.  I have always loved Paris, the thought of Paris, the dream of living in Paris one day.  And now, I do – while I make plans to move back to Nice. I am here to tell you that living in Paris has been everything I thought it would be – wonderful food, wonderful people, interesting neighborhoods, gorgeous architecture, the Seine River, lots of trees, beautiful, interesting things everywhere. 

So, why am I leaving since I love Paris with all my heart? Because I am almost 85. And I need to be in a place that feels like home to live in my last years on earth – however long that may be. I thought I would return to the USA and be buried with Mother and Daddy. But that does not feel like home. And California is too expensive for me. Paris does not feel like home. Besides, it is outside my comfort zone financially. I have made my decision. Nice, it is. That feels like home. And France has excellent health care. I will admit that I am moving reluctantly. But, hopefully, moving while I still can.

I KNOW the weather is better for my body, and I KNOW the Sea is energizing to me. I KNOW good doctors, and so it is….unless I change my mind. It is not easy to get an apartment in Nice.

The French system is complicated, so is the system in the USA.  So I am still tending to myself, and I want to do that for several more years.  I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT LIES AHEAD!!!!  I am telling myself that will be fun.  WELLllllll, if I am going to keep on waking up in the mornings, I must get my mind to go with the flow.  So, this is the article that is helping me today.  Sorry, these are just practical considerations. So, if you find these too negative, stop reading. I simply want to keep you adequately informed. Haha!

So, I think that we can all agree that Paris is enchanting on multiple levels.

This is the article. I don’t know who wrote it. Sorry. I thought I had saved the person’s name. I didn’t. I hope he/she doesn’t mind that I am sharing it.

Know-how!!That’s it. It’s the number one reason we don’t take action. Your brain is telling you, you’re not good enough or don’t know enough. 
🦋 take a breathe🦋 let go of self-blame for one minute🦋 what does your heart say?
We have many, many to-dos. We don’t know how to do some of them or some of the steps within 
So then we spin – looping in thoughts, and we hesitate, procrastinate, and don’t do much – our dreams drying in a vine inside our heart like withered grape.


When I was setting up my first email automation, it was arcane, they used jargon and the help info was like an alien language 🦄 — I had a friend show me twice! Yup! Twice. I read it and reread it until my brain picked up the lingo. And I JUST KEPT GOING until I got it. (I was a 4.0 student too, flew planes, and skipped ahead to more difficult classes – but email automation – my brain wanted to act confused and made it hard, 🤷‍♀️ so I just kept going – kept breaking it down into stupid simple steps)
ANS:🦋 Keep It Stupid Simple: start with one task, break down the steps, do the one you don’t know how to do first.
🗝 Whenever you don’t know – break it down into yet an even smaller step.
🦋 Give yourself plenty of time – this isn’t a math test – and you weren’t doing it at all before – so who cares how long it takes – your focus is simply to learn how,
🦋 reread the help section many times if needed – who cares – nope doesn’t mean you’re stupid – just learning – ask someone in the know – search online – repeat it once you learn it so you can remember next time.
🦋 Your brain needs to take a pass at it, to repeat things often up to 8 times before it becomes natural and sometimes more.
🌺 Don’t quit because your brain’s error messages make you feel dumb or not enough – none of that is remotely close to true.

You got this !!

Thanks for sharing some time with me.

Best, Jay




Published by jjaywmac

Jay W. MacIntosh (born Janet Tallulah Jewell) is a retired attorney, actress, and writer from the United States, living in Paris, France. She is a member of the California Bar and selected to the 2018, 2019, 2020 Southern California Super Lawyers list. She holds a Master’s Degree in Drama from the University of Georgia and is a member of Phi Beta Kappa, Phi Kappa Phi, and Zodiac Scholastic Society. As an actress, she is a member of The Actors Studio, the Academy of Television Arts & Sciences (ATAS), SAG-AFTRA, and ASCAP, performing in film and television in the United States and France. Her published works include Journal of Janet Tallulah, Volume 1, Journal of Janet Tallulah, Volume 2, The Origins of George Bernard Shaw’s Life Force Philosophy, Moments in Time, Capturing Beauty, JAYSPEAK on the Côte d’Azur, and Janet Tallulah.

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