Hellllo, Viêt Nam!!! I got here just in time!! The whole world is reeling again, and so am I . You should be so lucky to reach 85 because not everyone does. Let’s make it fun !! I am so happy that I will get there soon. Anyway, growing old is a real trip!!!! Well, indulge me. Thanks. March 30 is my birthday – my annual time to take stock. Where have I been (the list is long); where am I now (Paris); where am I going (?????); what matters to me at this time in my life (let’s think about it)? Is there a truth that fits my reality? Aphorism of the week – “Man keeps looking for a truth that fits his reality. Given our reality, the truth doesn’t fit. If you experience it, it’s the truth. The same thing believed is a lie. In life, understanding is the booby prize.” Say what?

85 is a big one. I have made it this far and wow, what a life I have lived. Lots to celebrate that others could not even dream of attaining. Unfortunately, 85 for a lot of people also signals a health dive. But, I am not the average octogenarian so there is room to barter with the gods, and destiny. I may not always be able to deal with my physical health, but I can my mental health and it is getting my attention.

Brain strokes have slowed me down and changed my everything. But I cannot think negative. Negative thoughts bring on the cortisol, which destroys healthy tissues, whereas pleasant or happy thoughts – even just contentment or reading a good book or watching something fun on netflix – bring on the soothing healing serotonin and other endorphins, the happy hormones. They heal the tissue and nerve endings.It is a fact. Thoughts are words, so look at my words – what am I telling myself? 

Am I focusing on the joys which I find in flowers, looking out my window, being in Paris (most of the time)…or on my maladies? Playing the piano is another gift and healer. Writing my blog is outstanding. Being in touch with other people is the other ingredient for health and longevity. I have got a lot to get me through the next years, and I truly believe that attitude is more important than any other thing in life. It determines our reality. That is not pollyanna talk, its quantum physics. So I am going to do this. I still have things to do and places to explore so plan to stay tuned.  

I think this is a good time for a favorite piece of poetry that sounds like good lyrics for a song:


“As time goes by, You will loosen your grip on that rock, The one you always thought was home. And you will realise that home is not a place, it’s a state of mind.

Let it go.

As time goes by, You will learn to see yourself more clearly, The girl who was always too much of one thing, And too little of another, was actually Everything she needed to be.

Let her out.

As time goes by, You will let the simple things become the big, And you will allow the big things to become the simple, And that readjustment will be, The day you really start to live,

Let it be.

As time goes by, you will be forced to say goodbye many times. And your soft little heart will shatter but, It will still beat and that will bring you, All the purpose you need.

Let it beat.

As time goes by, You will stop choosing wealth over peace, You will stop choosing money over time, And you will see that the treasures you need, Are in the smiles and the laughter.

Let them in.

As time goes by, The moments you remember when your life flashes past, Are never the awful memories my friend, it’s the joy,The summer nights, the lazy days with loved ones, The midnight chats and the morning hugs,

Let them happen.

Let them all happen.

  • By Donna Ashworth 

From ‘The Right Words’: 

UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B095MZ3XFP/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_6QX0Y2EW59QD6JXJ635M

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Best, Jay




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Jay W. MacIntosh (born Janet Tallulah Jewell) is a retired attorney, actress, and writer from the United States, living in Paris, France. She is a member of the California Bar and selected to the 2018, 2019, 2020 Southern California Super Lawyers list. She holds a Master’s Degree in Drama from the University of Georgia and is a member of Phi Beta Kappa, Phi Kappa Phi, and Zodiac Scholastic Society. As an actress, she is a member of The Actors Studio, the Academy of Television Arts & Sciences (ATAS), SAG-AFTRA, and ASCAP, performing in film and television in the United States and France. Her published works include Journal of Janet Tallulah, Volume 1, Journal of Janet Tallulah, Volume 2, The Origins of George Bernard Shaw’s Life Force Philosophy, Moments in Time, Capturing Beauty, JAYSPEAK on the Côte d’Azur, and Janet Tallulah.


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