Doing the work consciously and opening our minds and hearts to love and compassion is what heals.
Making the unconscious, conscious and allowing the flow of our emotions, thoughts and sensations is what heals.
Breathing through the need to understand and allowing the body’s consciousness to awaken and guide us back to earth, is what heals.
Accepting all versions of ourselves from the space of unconditional love, grace and forgiveness is what heals.
Allowing the answers to flow and letting go of our own need to control time, relationships and space is what heals.
When we show up every day with a fresh breath of faith and appreciation for a conscious and healthy soul and body presence in harmony with our Divine Essence, our Truth, God and Creation, we are healing, we are grounded and we allow ourselves to evolve and enlighten the path for others.
Healing needs Acceptance, Love and Accountability.
Healing is the consistent Question: What is this Situation trying to teach me?
I am soooo glad to see January go! It is hard to get a new year started when everything is changing, and I am getting settled into my apartment after 5 months in a hospital! Finally!!!!
But I am snuggled in and happy to back.
And most of my friends are on the internet
I have had to let go people who now don’t fit into my life. It’s not an attitude of arrogance or pride, but of congruence, you’ll keep loving them but with another perspective, from another level of understanding, understanding and awareness. It’s the hardest thing you’ll have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important: stop being attached to those who aren’t ready to love you. Stop having difficult conversations with people who don’t want to change. Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence. Stop giving your love and energy to people who aren’t ready to love you back. I know your instinct is to do everything you can to win the good thanks of everyone you can, but it’s also the drive that will steal your time, energy, and sanity. When you start showing up for your life completely and completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone is going to be ready to find you there. That doesn’t mean you have to change who you are. It means you have to distance yourself from people who are not ready to love you. If you are excluded, subtly insulted, forgotten, or easily ignored by the people you spend the most time with, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and life. The truth is, you’re not for everyone, and everyone isn’t for you. That’s what makes it so special when you find the few people with whom you have a genuine friendship, love or relationship: you’ll know how precious it is because you’ve experienced what it isn’t. But the more time you spend trying to force someone to love you when they’re not able, the more time you’ll be depriving yourself of that same connection. He’s waiting for you. There are billions of people on this planet, and a lot of them are going to meet you on their level, with the vibration of where they are, connect with where they are going. … But the longer you stay engulfed in the familiarity of people who use you as a pillow, a back-up option, a therapist and a strategist for their emotional work, the longer you stay out of the community you crave. Maybe if you stop showing up, you’ll be less wanted. Maybe they will forget you completely. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will cease. Maybe if you stop texting, your phone will stay dark for days and weeks. Maybe if you stop loving someone, the love between you will dissolve. That doesn’t mean you ruined a relationship. It means the only thing that sustained a relationship was the energy you and only you put into it. That ain’t love. That’s attachment. The most precious and important thing you have in your life is your energy. It’s not your time that’s limited, it’s your energy. What you give each day is what will create more and more in your life. What you give your time to is what will define your existence. When you realize this, you’ll start to understand why you’re so anxious when you spend your time with people who don’t bring you, and in jobs or places or cities that don’t suit you. You’ll start to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and everyone you meet is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven where only people who can care, listen and connect are allowed. Your not responsible for saving people. It’s not your responsibility to convince them they want to be saved. It is not your job to show up for people and deliver your life, little by little, moment by moment, because you pity them, because you feel bad, because you “should”, because you are obliged, because, at the root of all this, you are afraid that you do not Return the favor. It’s your job to realize that you are the master or mistress of your destiny, and that you’re accepting the love you think you deserve. Decide that you deserve real friendship, true commitment, and complete love with people who are healthy and prosperous. Then wait in the dark, just for a moment…. … And watch how fast it all starts to change.
if you do not travel, if you do not read, If you do not listen to the sounds of life, If you do not appreciate yourself.
You start dying slowly : When you kill your self-esteem, When you do not let others help you.
You start dying slowly ; If you become a slave of your habits, Walking everyday on the same paths… If you do not change your routine, If you do not wear different colours Or you do not speak to those you don’t know.
You start dying slowly : If you avoid to feel passion And their turbulent emotions; Those which make your eyes glisten And your heart beat fast.
You start dying slowly : If you do not risk what is safe for the uncertain If you do not go after a dream If you do not allow yourself At least once in your lifetime To run away from sensible advice
Don’t let yourself die slowly Do not forget to be happy!
~ Pablo Neruda
Chilean poet who was awarded the Nobe Prize for Literature in 1971
I asked a friend who has crossed 70 & is heading towards 80 what sort of changes he is feeling in himself? He sent me the following:
After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, I have now started loving myself.
I have realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.
I have stopped bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few pennies more is not going to break me, but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.
I leave my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than I am.
I stopped telling the elderly that they’ve already told that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past.
I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.
I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say “Thank You.”
I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.
I walk away from people who don’t value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.
I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.
I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.
I have learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships, I will never be alone.
I have learned to live each day as if it’s the last. After all, it might be the last.
I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!
I decided to share this for all my friends. Why do we have to wait to be 60 or 70 or 80, why can’t we practice this at any stage and age?
I have been in Paris for 4 years and it has never been easy. A pandemic and 5 months in the hospital. I have just begun to think about how I think and feel! What is next?! I don’t know. Maybe I should get another apartment. I don’t have somewhere in mind yet.but I will think about it. Another country? Nooooo. What do you think?
AGING…. You grow old, they told me, you are no longer you, you become distant, sad and lonely. I didn’t answer… I don’t get old, I get wise. I stopped being what others like me to become, but what I like to be. I stopped seeking the acceptance of others and accepted myself. I have left behind the lying mirrors that deceive mercilessly. – No, I’m not getting old. I just become more selective with places, people, customs and ideologies. I have let go of attachments, unnecessary pain, toxic people, sick souls and rotten hearts… bitterness and unhappiness are not for me, I release them for my health. I’m ditching party nights for learning and embracing insomnia. I stopped living stories and started writing them, I threw aside the imposed stereotypes. I be by B no longer carry eyeshadow in my bag, now I have a book that beautifies my mind. I exchanged wine glasses for coffee cups, forgot to idealize life and started living it. – No, I’m not getting old. I carry freshness in my soul, innocence in my heart, and it discovers me daily. I have in my hands the tenderness of a cocoon that, when opened, will spread its wings to other places unreachable for those who seek only the frivolity of the material. I have that charming smile on my face when I observe the simplicity of nature. I carry in my ears the chirping of the birds that delight me and accompany the walk. – No, I’m not getting old. I become selective, betting my time on the intangible, rewriting the story I’ve been told, rediscovering worlds, saving those old books I’ve forgotten half open. I’m becoming more cautious, I’ve stopped the outbursts that teach me nothing, I’m learning to talk about transcendent things, I’m learning to cultivate knowledge, plant ideals and falsify my destiny. – No, I’m not getting old. I begin to live who I really am.~
The Universe wants to remind you to stay open and receptive to all its good and abundance. When you do, more good comes your way! 🤍
With the new year just around the corner, it’s more important than ever to be in alignment with the Universe.
As our beloved Louise said: “No matter how wonderful the present moment is, the future can be even more fulfilling and joyous. The Universe always waits in smiling repose for us to align our thinking with its laws. When we are in alignment, everything flows.” 🍃
A lot of us are in the last quarter of life, and I share the following without politics, religion, or race cards. Just gentle thoughts:
You know, time has a way of catching you off-guard about how quickly it travels.
It feels like just yesterday that I was young and ready to start adult-life. And in a way it feels like eons ago, and I wonder where the years have gone.
I know I lived them all.
I remember all my hopes and dreams. I remember the plans I made.
And suddenly, here I am in the last quarter.
How did I get here so fast?
Where have the years gone, and where did my youth go?
I can recall looking at older people, thinking how long it would take for me to get where they were. At that time, I couldn’t imagine being where I am now.
And yet, here I am.
My friends are retired, they all have grey hair, they move much slower than they did, and when I look at them, I see older people. Some are in a better and some a worse condition than me. But I see the big difference. They are no longer the youthful, carefree, full-of-life friends.
Just like me, age shows. And we are now the older people we used to look at and thought it was still a long way off.
Now, I’ve entered this new season of my life, totally unprepared for the discomfort, aches, and pains, loss of energy and strength, and ability to do what I could, yet sometimes didn’t. At least I know that even though I’m in the last quarter and I have no idea how long this quarter will be, when my time on Earth is over, a new adventure awaits, too. I truly believe that.
Yes, I do have things I wish I had never done. Yet so thankful for those I did. It’s all in a lifetime.
And if you’re not in the last Quarter yet, I want to remind you that it comes faster than you could anticipate. Do the things you still want to do as soon as possible. Don’t procrastinate. Life runs on fast legs.
Do what you can today.
There’s no promise that we will all see this season of life. Live for today. For now.
Say the words to the ones you love. Often. Hopefully, some will appreciate the things you did for them. And if they don’t, it’s also okay.
Life is truly a gift. Just be happy. It’s literally your choice.
Remember that health is a treasure, not wealth, gold and silver, property, or your bank balance.
You may think that going out is nice, but believe me – coming home is better.
You may forget names, and that’s okay because some have already forgotten that they knew you.
The things you cared about previously, you may lose interest in. If you fall asleep in your favorite chair, stay there.
Growing older is wonderful. It’s comfortable. It’s loaded with memories that you never grow tired of. It is an absolute treasure.
10 Deep Psychology And Philosophy Quotes From “Carl Jung”
1. “The world will ask you who you are, and if you don’t know, the world will tell you.”
2. “If a man knows more than others, he becomes lonely.”
3. “Everything that irritates us about others can lead to an understanding of ourselves.”
4. “Life really does begin at forty. Up until then, you are just doing research.”
5. “You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.”
6. “Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people.”
7. “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
8. “Be grateful for your difficulties and challenges, for they hold blessings.
In fact… Man needs difficulties; they are necessary for healthy personal growth, individuation, and self-actualization.”
9. “Everyone you meet knows something you don’t know but need to know. Learn from them.”
10. “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”
It’s time for the piano to go to another family who can afford to repair it! I will miss it but it is time.
To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness. What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places—and there are so many—where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction. And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory. ~Howard Zinn
AGING…. You grow old, they told me, you are no longer you, you become distant, sad and lonely. I didn’t answer… I don’t get old, I get wise. I stopped being what others like me to become, but what I like to be. I stopped seeking the acceptance of others and accepted myself. I have left behind the lying mirrors that deceive mercilessly. – No, I’m not getting old. I just become more selective with places, people, customs and ideologies. I have let go of attachments, unnecessary pain, toxic people, sick souls and rotten hearts… bitterness and unhappiness are not for me, I release them for my health. I’m ditching party nights for learning and embracing insomnia. I stopped living stories and started writing them, I threw aside the imposed stereotypes. I be by B no longer carry eyeshadow in my bag, now I have a book that beautifies my mind. I exchanged wine glasses for coffee cups, forgot to idealize life and started living it. – No, I’m not getting old. I carry freshness in my soul, innocence in my heart, and it discovers me daily. I have in my hands the tenderness of a cocoon that, when opened, will spread its wings to other places unreachable for those who seek only the frivolity of the material. I have that charming smile on my face when I observe the simplicity of nature. I carry in my ears the chirping of the birds that delight me and accompany the walk. – No, I’m not getting old. I become selective, betting my time on the intangible, rewriting the story I’ve been told, rediscovering worlds, saving those old books I’ve forgotten half open. I’m becoming more cautious, I’ve stopped the outbursts that teach me nothing, I’m learning to talk about transcendent things, I’m learning to cultivate knowledge, plant ideals and falsify my destiny. – No, I’m not getting old. I begin to live who I really am.~ ~Bianka Luz
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