BACK TO SCHOOL!

“Do you speak French?” That was the first question that everyone asked Steve and me when we said we were moving to France. We both said no. No problem. We would learn. Well, we tried, but it did not come trippingly off our tongues. Luckily, we gestured and pointed our way through most situations. However, that did not work with the French Health System. Nor did it work with many of the situations that I faced handling matters after Steve’s death. For example, important calls from Paris, leaving messages in French on my phone from a blocked number. I bungled my way through it, but I knew – if I stayed in Nice, I must learn French.

After Christmas, with advice and encouragement from friends, I enrolled in a beginner course at Alliance francaise. Four hours a day, five days a week, four weeks. I am just concluding my first week – exhausted and encouraged, striving to get up to speed. Not easy, but OK. Up at 6:00 a.m., out the door by 8:00, on the No. 15 bus by 8:15, at the Bar/Coffee Shop by 8:35 (fresh orange juice and café Americain),

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at class by 8:50, commence work at 9:00,

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going non-stop until 1:00. Then – homework. It’s easier than going to trial.

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It is a small class of six students – Scott (age 27, very intelligent guy – from Australia), Sukanya (age 40, great personality – from Thailand), Laura (age 16, adorable – from Columbia), Polly (age 35, gorgeous – from Hong Kong), Steven (57, No. 1 helper to ALL   of us and married to a French woman, from Daytona Beach, Florida), and me (79 going on 21, gorgeous – from Los Angeles, now Nice, France).

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Our professor is Elizabeth (51, tall, gorgeous gracious, patient – married with kids, from France, lives in Eze).

In class, we speak French at all times. Elizabeth answers questions in French. Needless to say, Elizabeth is the only person in the room who seems to know what is going on or what anyone is trying to say. But, she is amazingly patient, and we all are doing well. That said – by 12:00, I am flooded with adrenaline, but the time flies by.

So, at the end of class on the 4th day of my first week during my sixteenth month in Nice, France, I am learning French. Long way to go. No problem. I have the time and the motivation. I can afford a month of tuition. After that, I plan to schedule sessions with people I’ve met who want to practice English. We will exchange time – I practice my French, and he/she practices English. Over coffee somewhere. That works. Gets me out of the condo and gives me practice.

A word about Alliance francaise – it was founded in 1884. It is a non-profit association of higher education (French law of 1901), a member of the first cultural network in the world (all languages included), based on the Alliance francaise Foundation. Each year, over 1700 students from 90 different nationalities come to learn French in a multicultural environment. The Alliance française de Nice, does not only focus on French language teaching. It is part of an international network created in 1883 in Paris by an “organization of free men” working to serve our worldwide renowned language and culture, with schools in 136 countries on all five continents.

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These pictures are not up to standard, but will do in a pinch. I don’t want my classmates to think I am not taking things seriously – snapping pics during class.

Best, Jay

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LESS IS MORE

It has taken me a lifetime to realize the value of downsizing. I was raised by a mother who saved everything. All closets were stuffed to the brim with you-name-it – old clothes, new clothes, too-small clothes, too-large clothes, winter clothes, summer clothes, coats, hats, shoes, shoe boxes, rags, yarn. All available space was crammed full of things we might need at some point in time. Chests of drawers, breakfronts, china cabinets, hall closets, cupboards. Price tags were still on a lot of lingerie stuffed in drawers. Once in a blue moon, Mother would give some clothes to Mama Dorough and Lillian. Some for Joan. I don’t know how she decided what she could part with. That all seemed normal to me. I had more clothes than I could ever wear, kept everything, even when it didn’t fit. We had old books, new books, magazines, old sheet music, song books, hymnals, comic books, newspaper articles, letters, birthday cards, church programs, empty boxes, empty jars, ribbon, wrapping paper, desk supplies. Every cupboard in the kitchen was filled, including the refrigerator and freezer upstairs and  the ones in the basement. Daddy enlarged and remodeled; Mother filled it up.  

When I got married and had children, I saved everything. “I might need it one day.” Or, “That’s Blake’s hand-print. It stays.” Or, “Tracy painted that cat picture when she was two. That stays.” Not until I moved into a small Beverly Hills apartment did I realize I didn’t have room for it all. When I moved to Irvine, CA, to start law school, I became alarmed. It was expensive moving all that stuff. Plus, I had nowhere to put it. So, I stuffed it in the garage. Not until I needed to get my car off the street did I do a turn-around. That is when I began to simplify. Craig and his new bride Jean needed furniture. I said take what you need. Lucky for me, they left with a full truck of stuff. I could park my car in the garage. Then, when Steve and I married, I had help. We both wanted to downsize. And when we moved to Nice, we got serious about it. 

Let’s face it. It has been difficult for me. I was weaned on “keep it”. And, in retrospect, I think Mother was a borderline-hoarder. She would call herself a “clutter-er”. Or, “collector”. When does collecting or cluttering (e.g., “saving for future use”) become hoarding? Who draws the line? Where?

Mayo Clinic calls “hoarding disorder” a persistent difficulty discarding or parting with possessions because of a perceived need to save them. Bingo! A person experiences distress at the thought of getting rid of items. BINGO!!  …excessive accumulation of items because the emotional attachment to the hoarded objects far exceeds the motive to discard the item. Ouch!

I’m better. I still have too much. Even on my computer. I have saved files and folders and programs and documents and pictures. Pictures and copies of pictures, and files of duplicates within duplicates.

I shall simplify more. Period, end of story. How else can I create space for the new? Plus, in France, I’m lucky if there is a small closet. 

Note: Below are images I saved from Facebook just because I like them. They speak to me in some way. Enjoy.  

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Best, Jay

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NEW YEAR’S EVE – 2016

Inspiration eludes me this week. I’m sitting on ideas for blogs or blogs about blogs – ugh. Problem is – I agreed to write something each week. OK, so my agreement was with myself. That’s the way I do things. Agree to commit. So, as I sit here, determined to keep a stiff upper lip during this complicated time of unbelievable change on multiple levels, I will simplify. My 2016 New Year’s resolution for 2017 is – To Listen.

One day this week, I got an “inspiring quote” email saying, When you really listen to another person from their point of view, and reflect back to them that understanding, it’s like giving them emotional oxygen.” – Stephen Covey.  First of all, one doesn’t “reflect back”. But, once I got past the incorrect grammar, I thought about listening. Interesting. Few people listen. I seldom listen. I mostly formulate response. Or, next thought.  In acting class, we had assignments – to listen, actively listen. It required focus. Patience. Energy. Time.

Early on, I realised I have more fun if I am the one talking. And, if someone is going too slow for me, I finish their sentences for them. Steve did, too. – right or wrong. He was forever completing my sentences. I would be expounding about some topic or other, and he would tell me what I was trying to say and be done with it. Over the years, he got better about letting me go on and on, and at the end of my diatribe, say something like “Thank you for sharing.” We would both laugh. Or, I would say, “you want to tell this story, or can I finish?” When I was practicing law, I would go crazy listening to a client or potential client go on about something that was obvious to me and did not require so many words. Attorneys were the worst.

Don’t get me wrong – I hear what someone is saying. I’m talking about listening. That is different. I want to improve my listening skill. Give someone “emotional oxygen”. Maybe get some back. SO, my plan is to listen. Actively. Even if I disagree with the subject matter.

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Best, Jay

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CHRISTMAS IN PARIS

“Everyone should see Paris at Christmas time at least once a lifetime.” said Steve. Jay replied, “Sounds good to me”. That was the way it began.

I booked an Airbnb in the Marais for four nights; we bought easyJet round trip tickets to Paris-Charles de Gaulle; we packed what few clothes we had for cold weather into small bags – headed for Paris at Christmas time. The weather forecast was bleak – rain, with highs in the 40’s and 50’s. Steve and I tried to find warm clothes in the closet. Southern California and warm clothes don’t go together in the same sentence. We tried to consolidate since easyJet charges for all bags over the size of a shoe box. (Note to self: the French travel light.) Our flight to Paris was booked for 9:05 a.m. out of Nice on the 23rd, returning Sunday, the 27th at 2:00 p.m. The taxi was picking us up at 6:30 a.m. (Note to self: ignore instruction to get to airport two hours early. Too much time. But, they really do close gate thirty minutes before flight time. Be careful.) Four nights in Paris with three full days to play. Both of us were excited. It was our turn to go – my first, his second.

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Everything went well, couldn’t have been better. Our room in the Marais turned out to be the entire condo. The owners, apologizing profusely because they had to be away for Christmas, left us alone. Great. Privacy and Paris – what a concept. We walked everywhere. And, if we got tired, we stopped at one of the 10,000 cafes and hung out until rested enough to continue.

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The day we arrived, the 23rd, we ventured out for a delicious Italian meal in a delightful restaurant that came highly recommended by our hosts (Note to self: the good restaurants really do close at 2:00 p.m. but will serve you if you arrive at 1:59 p.m. and you can stay as long as you want – up to a point.) Then, checked out the neighborhood and returned to the condo to figure things out, like how to open the front door, turn on the lights, flush the toilet, run the shower, and rest up for the next day. (Note to self: save time to figure out basics.)

For the next three days, we walked and walked and walked. Taxis, trains, and buses were everywhere, but we wanted to walk. That first day, the 24th and Christmas Eve, we headed for Galleries Lafayette, then planned to explore until dark.

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At that point, we wanted to be at the Arch de Triomphe on the Champs-Elysees to see the Christmas lights and have dinner somewhere. En route, we ventured into a huge Christmas market on the Champs-Elysees, explored everything that interested us, and took photos of everything. (Note to self: buy portable phone charger with connector for purse).

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By the time we made it to the Arch de Triomphe, we were exhausted. We found a restaurant for dinner, got a table by the window, saw the Christmas lights come on while dining, and headed for home. Called Uber to pick us up. A perfect day. Exhausted and exhilarated.

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The next day was Christmas. We decided to walk in a different direction – toward Notre Dame. Security was everywhere. Gendarmes with guns patrolling the streets. We couldn’t get close to Notre Dame. Barricades, ropes, crowds of people, police controlling long lines waiting to get in to the Cathedral. It looked like a terrorist-magnet to me. I had to convince Steve to walk in another direction because Mr. Curiosity wanted to check it all out – considering whether to get in that long line or not.

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As it turned out, we crossed the bridge – there at the Seine, locked our lives together forever, and threw away the key. We were so happy. I don’t remember where we ate. Every place we went was wonderful, unique, and unplanned. Wandering and deciding on the fly.

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Saturday after Christmas, we took it a little easier. Both of us were tired. I cannot remember what we did, but whatever it was, we had fun. And, wherever we went, we walked. The only rides we took were the taxis to and from the airport and that Uber ride home. I would give out before Steve. He was Mr. Energy himself. No snags, no problems. And, the accommodations were perfect. We vowed to return.

The pictures here are a few of the shots we took on the fly. Everything was happenstance. We both liked it that way. Wandering through Paris at Christmas time with our lives locked forever because Steve threw away the key.

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It is hard to believe he is gone. I have never cried this much – ever. At some point, I will get a grip. In the meantime, I cry – wherever and whenever. There are “up” times, don’t get me wrong, but ups-and-downs make me dizzy. As far as it being Christmas, …well, the songs get me a little teary. Easy to do – I’m teary, anyway. Truth be known, we were never big Christmas revellers, just quietly did our own thing. We sometimes celebrated with family and/or friends, but, if nothing panned out, we were fine.

Now, everything is different. I have often pondered the concept of “change”, watching family and friends resolve to adjust some life pattern or other without success. Often, I would say, “You can’t change without doing something else.” Easy to say. Not easy to do. In this case, life has forced a change – like it or not. I don’t like it. I will embrace it anyway. It is the one constant that I can count on.

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Best, Jay

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REMEMBERING HADIDJAH

I met her in 1969. At that time, her name was Helena Fielding, from Westwood, California. She lived and worked in Highland Park. I was referred to her by a gestalt therapist whom I was seeing at the time, Robert Martin. I was referred to Dr. Martin by a doctor in Pacific Palisades, Dr. Beck. The motivating factor behind all of this – severe migraine headaches. Dr. Martin suggested Helena because he knew she helped his clients with her type of bodywork. He said she did “Rolfing”. She studied the technique under its founder, Ida Rolf. Whatever. If Rolfing would help my migraines, so be it. In those early days of knowing her, Helena became a Muslim and changed her name to “Hadidjah Lamas”. All of it was foreign to me. I didn’t care. I just wanted help. It was supposed to be a 10 – week program. Expensive. I joined up. And, 10 weeks turned into 43 years. As my body began to change, I continued going. I was an actress. And, my body was my tool. I needed to be relaxed, my body pliable and able to do what the role required. As time went by, I realized that Hadidjah was special, renown among her peers and a healer of healers.

Hadidjah’s work helped my migraines. It helped my neck, my back, my legs, my shoulders, my face, my tight jaw. At first, treatments were painful because of extreme muscle tension. I learned how to enter the pain and allow it to flow out of my body. I went through a metamorphosis, so to speak. I got used to the pain and allowed my body to change. Periodically, if I got uptight over something or other, I would see Hadidjah. If I pulled my back or had body pain, I would see Hadidjah. In the 70’s, I had a car accident, broke my jaw, and had my teeth wired together for a month. I called Hadidjah.

Last week, December 5, 2016, Hadidjah died in a nursing home. She was 84. I last saw her in 2012, just before we moved to Encino. At that time, she had difficulty remembering things, but her hands were magical and filled with healing energy. After a session with her, I felt alive and young. She treated young and old, sick and well. She treated celebrities at their homes and visited European castles to treat clients in other parts of the world. Not a day goes by that I don’t think  of her and miss her. My knees need help. My neck is tense. Stress and grief have taken their toll. Next year, maybe I will look around, see what the people here do for relief. There must be someone in Nice, affordable, who knows structural integration and its benefits. But, there will never be another Hadidjah. She was special. I am honored to have been her client and her friend. May she rest in peace.

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LEGACY

My husband, Steve Orlandella, loved to write. By July, 2016, he was on a roll – brimming with ideas for his blog, Vic and the redhead, Facebook posts. Witty ideas and fun ways to express what he wanted to say. He had fun reading and re-reading what he wrote. I had fun reading them. Still do. He lives – and will always live – in his writing.

It all started on September 20, 2011. I, as an entertainment attorney, was invited to be on an e-publishing, self-help panel for members of the Writers Guild of America. The panel sought to empower writers to create new opportunities for work in film, television, new media and transmedia. Since WGA did not cover book publication regardless of format, it was thought that e-publishing could be a stepping stone towards potential work on Guild-covered adaptations. So, on September 20th, I joined members Lee Goldberg (The Glades), Derek Haas (Wanted), and Alexandra Sokoloff (author, Book of Shadows, and Mark Coker (Smashwords). Our task was to discuss the latest ebook/self and indie-publishing developments. It was a power-packed evening with information, questions, and answers. Thus, the next day I said to Steve, “You need to write a book”. To which he answered, “I have nothing to say.” I laughed. Steve ALWAYS had something to say.

The first book is delightful – STEVESPEAK – 3 YEARS ON FACEBOOK.

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STEVESPEAK is one of my favorites for spending time with him and getting to know him better. Plus, it is dedicated: “To Janet, The wind beneath my wings, And the power behind my throne.”

In his Prologue, he writes:  “I’m not sure how I got on Facebook.  Most likely it was word of mouth.  Like many of you I started small, but as my list of friends grew, so did my activity.  A funny thing happened along the way, I found my voice.  Along with connecting with friends, I had the chance to be critical, historical, passionate, and I hope, funny. This book traces almost 3 years on Facebook, and is designed to give my fellow “Facebookers,” An idea of what other people are saying. For what it’s worth, you will learn some things about me. My love for baseball, my interest in “The Titanic,” my passion for my hometown, Boston.

“Stevespeak” was coined by my wife, who insists I have my own language.  Well that’s probably not true, but there are some words that are uniquely mine. For instance, only in my world is there a planet “Smecktar.”  Those pimples on your shoulder blades are “bacne,” and “Xerocracy” is government by photocopy. If something is dead, it’s “kersfuncken.” “Inuendo” is Italian for colonoscopy.

That said, there are some things you need to know in order to navigate your way through this book.  There are many references to something called “HRB.”  “HRB” is “Her Royal Blondness.”  That would be my wife.  She is an attorney and is sometimes referred to as the “blonde barrister.” Her maiden name is Janet Jewell.  Christine became Kris and is my sister. “Tori” and “Icto” are other names for our friend Victoria Lucas.  Tori’s sister is Lil, and sometimes, Liz. The “Knife” is Joe Klinger. “Fabulous 52” was the old Saturday night movie series on CBS in Los Angeles. I stole it, (I mean, researched it) and it became the “Fabulous 42.” Most of the rest is self-explanatory.”

Next, his outstanding masterpiece – TITANIC.

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TITANIC was his lifetime achievement, the one he held close to his heart.  He dedicated it to his mother.  He wrote, “To my Mother Therese, The Real Historian in The Family.”

He writes in his Foreword:  “In the fall of 1960, I was a ten-year-old, growing up in Los Angeles’ San Fernando Valley.  Even then I was sarcastic, opinionated, and well on my way to becoming obnoxious.  The phrase most often used was, ‘A little too smart for his own good.’  Perhaps.  Duplicit in all this were my parents who spoiled me rotten.  One of my numerous privileges was permission to stay up late on Saturday night…very late.

Toward the end of the 1950s, television in Los Angeles was in a state of flux.  The Country’s number three [now number two] market had seven stations, a wealth of airtime, and a dearth of programming.  The three network affiliates and the four independents turned to motion pictures to fill the void so much so that one station, Channel 9, ran the same movie every night for a week.  Hey, I love Jimmy Cagney, but how many times can you watch ‘Yankee Doodle Dandy’?  The stations also had the nasty habit of cutting the films to pieces, the classic case being Channel 7, the ABC affiliate who filled their 3:30-5pm slots by slicing and dicing 2-hour movies down to 67 minutes. They came close to cutting Ingrid Bergman out of ‘Casablanca.’  Channel 2, the CBS Affiliate, had no such problem.  [They had ‘Lucy’; they had ‘Jackie Gleason’.]  ‘The Fabulous 52’ was reserved for Saturday night at 11:30pm, and, since the only things that followed the movie were the National Anthem and a test pattern, they ran uncut.  The station held the rights to a package of relatively recent films from 20th Century Fox. 

One Saturday afternoon, my dad announced, ‘Titanic is on tonight.’  I had no idea who or what was ‘Titanic’, but we gathered in the family room at 11:30.  For the next two hours, I sat transfixed, mesmerized by what we were seeing.  If you are scoring at home, it was the 1953 version with Barbara Stanwyck, Clifton Webb and a young Robert Wagner.  They had me.

In 1964, I came across a copy of A Night to Remember, Walter Lord’s seminal work on the events of April 14-15, 1912, and the following year, I saw the movie made [in England, 1958] from Lord’s book.  It was a film made by people who wanted to get it right.  This film was the game changer. 

The Fox movie opens with a page of text proclaiming that all the facts in the film were taken right from the United States Senate and British Board of Trade Inquiries.  Really?  Even then, Fox knew how to ‘play fast and loose with the truth.’  As good as their movie was – and it was good, it paled before the Brit’s film.  Fifteen hundred people did not all stand together, sing ‘Nearer My God To Thee’, and meekly sink into the North Atlantic.  They fought and struggled until their last breath, trying not to freeze or drown in the unforgiving sea.  Madeleine Astor wasn’t an elegant matron.  She was in fact a pregnant teenager.  That was it.  ‘Game On!’ 

I absorbed every book I could find, any TV program I could watch, and every newspaper on microfilm, along with help from the Titanic Historical Society.  Add that to my natural affinity for ships, and an ‘obsession’ was born.  For some, it’s The Civil War; for others, it’s the Kennedy Assassination; for me, it is The Royal Mail Steamship Titanic.

Part of the obsession stems from the fact that no event in history is so loaded with conjecture, myths, and downright lies, some of which are ‘beauties.’  One example:  A young David Sarnoff [co-founder of RCA] became famous telling the world how he was the first to pick-up the Titanic’s distress call in the station on the roof of Wanamaker’s Department Store and how he remained at the key all Sunday night and well into the next day.  Great story?  Absolutely.  Truthful story?  Absolutely not.  Wanamaker’s was closed on Sunday, and even when the store was open, Sarnoff was the office manager.  Three other employees of The Marconi Company stood the watch.

Fox reloaded and fired again in 1997.  This time, they tried it with a seemingly unlimited budget and an amateur historian calling the shots.  Movie making?  Unmatched.  Story telling?  Not so much.  History?  Nonexistent.  There is a word for what you wind up with when you invent the leading characters.  Fiction.  Now, nobody loves Kate Winslet ‘in flagrante delicto’ more than I do, but the truth is better.  Thus, ”Jack Dawson’ and ‘Rose DeWitt’ join ‘Julia Sturges’ and ‘Lady Marjory Bellamy’ as mythical creatures on a real ship.

And, since you’re making stuff up, how about a little character assassination?  The 1997 film depicted First Officer William Murdoch taking but ultimately rejecting a bribe from make-believe villain ‘Caledon Hockley.’  Murdoch was also shown shooting two passengers dead after he presumed they intended to storm one of the remaining lifeboats.  He then saluted Chief Officer Henry Wilde and committed suicide with a revolver.  None of this ever happened.  After the picture’s director [name withheld] refused to take out the bogus scenes, studio executives flew to Murdoch’s hometown to issue his relatives an apology.  As for the movie, if you are looking for an accurate depiction of events – keep looking.  Put another way, there was a ship called Titanic, and it sank.  After that, you’re on your own.

The Civil War is far and away the all-time champion of most books. [One of Titanic’s passengers wrote ‘The Truth about Chickamauga.’]  Second?  The runner-up is World War II.  Third?  The correct guess is the Titanic.  So, what is my mission statement?  What else?  Write yet another book.  Tell her story, once again.  This time, come armed with all I know and have learned in the wake of Doctor Robert Ballard’s stunning discovery of the wreck in 1985.  I will attempt to detail what is correct and dispel, whenever possible, what is not.

I spent my career working in television, the first seven years producing TV News.  What did I learn?  I learned skepticism tinged with a bit of cynicism, and it has served me well.  So, I will do your bidding.  On your behalf, I will be skeptical, factual, analytical, and when required, cynical.  There is one thing I cannot be, dispassionate.  I will stipulate to a love of all ships – but Her most of all.  By now, you may be asking yourself, ‘Why so many pictures?’  I confess that, too, is the TV producer in me.  You always try to put a face with a story.  Plus, there is always the possibility that you can’t recognize Turbinia.

If I am standing at all, it is on the shoulders of some truly great authors.  I have read, re-read, and re-re-read their work over the years and have researched – borrowed – from them all.  To the best of my ability, everything in this book is true.  I believe in the concept that, if the Lord wanted us to remain silent, he wouldn’t have given us [brackets].  So, on occasion, you’ll see a comment from yours truly.  [I’ll be that most irritating of shipmates – the loud, opinionated one.]

The longest section of the book concerns the area around the Boat Deck between midnight and 2:20am.  If it seems long [it’s real time] and overly detailed, I apologize, but to me, this is the heart of the narrative.  Hundreds of little dramas played out on a sloping deck in the middle of a freezing ocean.  Loved ones were torn apart, and families were destroyed.  And with it came the sub-plots.  Some got in lifeboats, and some did not.  Some were allowed in the boats, and some were not.  All of this begs the question, why?  Regardless, these are their stories, and on their behalf, I make no apologies.  I have tried to keep the technological parts under control and not drown my readers in facts and figures.  But the brains and skill that created the Olympic-class liners are very much a part of this story.

Allow me just a couple of more thoughts before we proceed.  There is one sentence that is common to virtually every book written about the RMS Titanic.  ‘It had been a mild winter in the Arctic.’  It had, indeed.  Ice that had been forming since well before the dawn of man was now at last free.  Unfettered, it could leave Greenland and move into the Labrador Current and begin its journey south toward the shipping lanes.  The ice was no different than previous years, only this year, there would be more than usual, much more.  There were small pieces of ice, what sailors called ‘growlers.’  There were large sections known as ‘sheet ice,’ and larger still, ‘pack ice.’  In between were hundreds of what every seaman feared most, what the Norsemen referred to as ‘mountains of ice.’  Icebergs.

If you’re familiar with the advertising business, you probably know about the concepts of ‘marketing research’ and ‘brand recognition.’  Countless studies have been commissioned to find out what people can identify and what they like.  The results are often quite surprising.  For example, inquiries have determined that far more people [around the world] can recognize the ‘Cavallino Rampante’ [in English, ‘The Prancing Horse’ aka the ‘Ferrari’ logo] than can recognize ‘Shell’ or ‘Coca-Cola.’  Then there is my favorite.  For decades, focus groups, when asked to identify the most famous ship in the world, gave the traditional answer, ‘Noah’s Ark’.  No more.  The runaway number one is now ‘Titanic’.  That’s ‘brand recognition.’

There is no way to tell the whole story in this little book, yet I will do my best.  Call me crazy [you wouldn’t be the first] and maybe a little arrogant [see previous], but I feel it’s my duty to help set the record straight for fifteen hundred souls who went to a cold, watery grave that night.  Time to depart.  ‘All ashore that’s goin’ ashore!'”

Next, THE GAME.

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THE GAME is dedicated, “To My Father, For that rainy day at Fenway and A thousand games of ‘catch’”.  Steve was passionate about baseball.  He knew baseball in-and-out.  He was the expert’s expert. He would say, “I know what I like.”  Well, I’m here to tell you that he “liked”, [see also, “was passionate about”] the Red Sox, Boston, the Patriots, the Celtics, Lotus cars, Ferraris, meatballs, pasta of any kind, pundits, condiments, the Titanic, HRB, his family, and Vin Scully – not necessarily in that order. 

He writes in THE GAME Foreword:  “The History books tell us that the first professional baseball game was held on May 4, 1869, as the Cincinnati Red Stockings ‘eked’ out a 45-9 win. No doubt, the first baseball story was told on May 5, 1969.  No sport – not basketball, not football, not hockey – has the oral tradition of the national pastime. And, like any good oral tradition, it has been passed from generation to generation.  Baseball stories in one form or another are as much a part of our game as the infield fly and the rosin bag.  In this book, they come in all sizes and shapes – short stories, essays, expressions, rules, jokes, and slang, to name just a few.

The first ‘Baseball Balladeer’ in my life was one Vincent Edward Scully, known to three generations of fans as ‘Vin.’ For baseball-ignorant Southern Californians, he was a Godsend. Far more than their voice, he was their teacher.  At that point, the game that had been thousands of miles away was as close as your transistor radio or the ‘am’ in your car. He gave Los Angeles the who, what, when, where, and most importantly, the why. He studied at the foot of the master Red Barber and is acknowledged as the best in the business.  I know this how? He was inducted into the Baseball Hall of Fame 43 years ago! For nine years, I was lucky enough to be his producer. I called him ‘The Doctor’ for his PhD in baseball. Try explaining the balk rule to the man who taught you half of what you know about the game.

When I began covering the Angels, I got to know Emil Joseph ‘Buzzie’ Bavasi.  If you looked up ‘character’ in the dictionary, it would say, ‘see Buzzie.’  In the ‘40s, he was Branch Rickey’s top lieutenant and had a hand in breaking Baseball’s color line as well as dealing with Vero Beach in the acquisition of Dodgertown.  He became General Manager and earned a reputation as a shrewd and tough negotiator. Buzzie loved to tell the story about contract haggling with a certain player [still alive, so no names]. He had a fake contract with a very low salary created for the team’s best player.  He left it on his desk and excused himself for a moment, convinced that the player would take a peak. Needless to say that when he returned, the negotiations ended quickly and in Buzzie’s favor.  He had been schooled in [and ultimately taught] the Branch Rickey way of playing the game [stressing fundamentals, nurturing talent, and the importance of a strong farm system]. In the years we worked together, I never once overheard a conversation when he wasn’t at the beginning, in the middle, or at the end of a story or anecdote. He lived for baseball and lived to talk about it.

In 1985, I began working with Bob Starr. Bob, or as we called him, ‘Bobo’, was the broadcaster’s broadcaster. He could do play-by-play for anything – baseball, football, your kid’s hopscotch game, anything. Bobo was a graduate of the KMOX School of Broadcasting.  The famed St. Louis radio station produced Harry Caray, Jack and Joe Buck, Buddy Blattner, Joe Garagiola, and Bob Costas, among others. He had that smooth, Midwestern style, and on the air, you’d swear he was talking just to you.  I once shared a golf cart with him for a round – four hours well-spent looking for my ball [as usual] and listening.  He loved to tell stories, some on himself. While playing 18 holes on an off day, Bob had a heart attack.  Upon arrival at the hospital, the doctors asked if he were in pain. ‘Yes,’ he replied, ‘in my backside.’ Mystified, the doctors went over the test results. A physical examination revealed that the patient still had his pants on.  The source of the pain was two Titleists in his back pocket.  How we miss Bobo.

The average baseball fan may not recognize the name Jack Lang, but every player knew him and loved it when he called.  Jack was for twenty years the executive secretary of The Baseball Writers of America, and if he telephoned you, it meant that you just won the Cy Young Award, the Most Valuable Player Award, the Rookie-of-the-Year, or had hit the ‘Baseball Lottery,’ induction into the Hall of Fame.  His vocation was sportswriter [a New York beat writer], and for forty years, he was one of the best.  I met Jack in 1987.  We had been hired by Victor Temkin to do sports licensing for MCA/Universal. It was there I discovered his sense of humor, his humanity, and his encyclopedic knowledge of the game.  We would speak on the phone almost every day for an hour.  Five minutes would be devoted to business, the remaining fifty-five given over to ‘talkin’ baseball.’  I firmly believe that I could have put the phone on speaker, turned on a tape recorder, left the room, and returned thirty minutes later to find another chapter for this book.  In 1997, we took a production crew to his home for an interview. It was the 50th anniversary of Jackie Robinson’s entry into the major leagues, and who better to discuss it than the man who covered it.  Jack lived in the little village of Ft. Salonga on the North Coast of Long Island, [Vin used to refer to him as ‘the Squire of Ft. Salonga’] in a modest house with an office on the side. The office contained a desk, two chairs, and enough baseball memorabilia to open a museum. [The whole place could have been shipped, as is, to Cooperstown.]

Buzzie, Bobo, and the Squire are gone, and, believe me, this book would have been easier to write if they were still here. We still have Vinnie [long may he reign].  If there is such a thing as a sub-dedication, this is for them. They and countless others had a hand in writing this book.  I have tried to fashion a work with something for everyone, from the hard-core fan to the young people just learning about the game. In so doing, I’ve run the gamut all the way from baseball history to baseball jokes. I hope you enjoy it and hope it adds to your love for ‘the game’.”

At this point, Steve decided to try his hand at writing novels – mysteries with a lead detective and his girlfriend.  With that, Vic Landell and the Redhead appeared on the scene.  He spent hours with them in locales he loved – Sarasota, Florida, Washington, D.C., Boston, Los Angeles, New York.  The first Vic Landell mystery is BURDEN OF PROOF. 

Burden of Proof

BURDEN OF PROOF is set in and around Sarasota Florida.  It is dedicated my sister, Patricia Jewell Prince, “My Sister-in-Law Patricia, Lover of Mysteries.”

Steve begins each mystery: What’s in a Name?  “My father was born Vito Anthony Orlandella, and he didn’t much care for his name. “Vito” was all right, and in fact, he named his principal business The Vito Fruit Company – although throughout Boston he was often referred to as “Vic.” No real problem with the benign Anthony, it was the last name he saw as problematic. His one foray into show business as a record producer was done under the name “Tony Vito.” I’m not certain, but I believe he thought that Orlandella was too long and clumsy for a billboard. He had another name ready but never got the chance to use it. A clever anagram made by dropping the first two and the last letters of his name. Add to that, the remnants of his first name. Thus was born “Vic Landell.” When it came time to name my pitcher-turned-detective, the choice was an easy one. Call it homage to my father.”

Next, CAPITOL MURDER.

Capitol Murders

CAPITOL MURDER is dedicated to “Her Royal Blondness [HRB], Long may she Reign”. It is set in and around Washington, D.C.

“What’s in a Name? The heroine of this series is Marcia Glenn. The name is borrowed from my first childhood crush – a sixth-grade, blonde goddess. For two years I pined for her from, to paraphrase Hammerstein, ‘across a crowded schoolroom.’ My passion held in check only by the fact that she didn’t know I was alive. Her sights were set on another classmate, a surfer boy wannabe with flaxen air. Sure, just plunge a knife in my heart. The irony of all this is rooted in the fact that he seemed to have absolutely no interest in her. Funny the things you remember. How this preteen vixen has now morphed into a six-foot, Titian-tressed femme fatale is a story for another time.”

MARATHON MURDERS.

Marathon Murders

MARATHON MURDERS is dedicated to “Dash, Winner & Still Champion”, and located in Boston.

“What’s in a Name?  He was born on a farm in Maryland.  He served his country in the First World War, and became ill with the Spanish flu and later contracted Tuberculosis – spending most of his time in the Army as a patient in a Washington Hospital.  As a result of his illness he could not live full-time with his wife and two daughters and the marriage fell apart.  He was a firm believer in the notion that you write about what you know.  And since he was an alcoholic, his two most famous characters were as well.  He devoted much of the rest of his life to unpopular causes.  He wore his country’s uniform again in the Second World War.  His reward?  After the war he was investigated by Congress and testified before the House Un-American Activities Committee about his own life, but refused to cooperate with the committee.  As a result – he was blacklisted. He was sixty-six when lung cancer took his life.  In his obituary, The New York Times said of him, ‘the dean of the hard-boiled school of detective fiction.’  For any fan of mysteries his name is said with a smile.  For someone like me, who would love to be just a poor copy of the original, it is said with reverence.”                                                                                                                                               

And then, Steve wrote his favorite, DANCE WITH DEATH.

Dance With Death

DANCE WITH DEATH is dedicated “To my Second Parents Rose & Gerry”.  It is set in Los Angeles, California.

“What’s in a Name?  She was born Marcia Colleen Glenn – her first name from the Latin, meaning ‘dedicated to Mars.’  Mars is the red planet – there is your first clue.  It also means proud or warlike – that’s your second clue.  Her middle name was chosen by her father to emphasize the family’s Gaelic heritage.  By the age of five, her sister Katelyn was calling her ‘The Marce.’  To this day, if she likes you, call her Marce.  If she doesn’t much care for you, it’s Marcia.  If she flat hates your guts – it’s Ms. Glenn.  Fair warning, if you call her Marsha, brother, you are just asking for trouble.  When she was seventeen and turned from an ugly duckling into a beautiful swan, the boys in her high school started referring to her as ‘the looker.’  The lawyers at the firm where she did her internship called her ‘the stunner.’  That’s also what the crew at WWSB calls her – along with ‘the goddess.’  To the boys in Idaho Falls, she was ‘the long drink of water.’  When she knocked out a would-be assailant with one right hand, the name ‘slugger’ entered the lexicon.  There are others, like ‘supermodel’ and ‘deadeye.’  But if you’ve killed someone, she’s the ‘red menace.’  And finally, to her smitten boyfriend, she is occasionally ‘Titian’ -the shade of her glorious red hair.  She will also answer to ‘Irish,’ and for him only, ‘Honey,’ along with his favorite, ‘Baby.’  But, first and foremost she is always and forever – ‘the redhead.'”

His finale, MIDTOWN MAYHEM, dedicated “For the amazing Kris Jones”, and set in NYC. He did not know this would be his last one.

“What’s in a Name?  It was my high-school baseball coach who first hung the nickname on me. Of the nine pitchers on his staff, eight were right-handed. When asked who would be the starting pitcher against Syracuse, he replied, “Let’s send out the lefty.” The name stuck throughout college, the minors, and my first six years in the majors. It became problematic for me when I was traded to Philadelphia – for you see, they already had a “Lefty.” He was born Steven Norman Carlton. He made his debut with the Cardinals in 1965. A tall, imposing man, blessed with a hard fastball and nasty slider. He was soon known as an intimidating and dominating pitcher. Following a protracted salary dispute, St. Louis Cardinals owner Gussie Busch ordered Carlton traded. Eventually, he was dealt to the Philadelphia Phillies before the ‘72 season for a pitcher named Rick Wise. In time, it would be recognized as one of the most lopsided deals in baseball history. Carlton hit his stride with the Phillies. How good was he? In 1972, the down-trodden Phils won a total of 59 games – 27 of them by Carlton. That won him his first of four Cy Young Awards. He finished with 322 wins and was a consensus first ballot Hall of Famer. The day before a start, the scoreboard in Veterans Stadium would list tomorrow’s starting pitcher – Lefty. Need more? There’s a statue of him in front of Citizens Bank Park. How was I supposed to compete with all that? I could not. Since Carlton is six-foot four and your humble servant is a paltry six-foot one the players started to refer to me as Little Lefty. The day my career ended, I went back to being plain old Lefty.”

Steve was writing CASINO KILLER when he died.  Forty-six pages are in the can. It was to be dedicated to “John & Gloria Cataldo, Once and Forever”.  It was to be set in and around Nice, France.

“What’s in a Name?  It is the coastline of the Mediterranean Sea in the southeast corner of France, beneath of the base of the French Alps. There is no official boundary, but it is usually considered to extend from the Italian border in the east to Saint-Tropez, Hyères, Toulon, or Cassis in the west. The area is a Department of the French Government – Alpes-Maritimes. There is nothing quite like it anywhere else in the world. As the French might refer to it – beau ravage – beautiful shoreline.  It began as a winter health resort for the British upper class at the end of the 18th century. With the arrival of the railway in the mid-19th century, it became the playground and vacation spot of British, Russian, and other aristocrats, including Queen Victoria. It was the English who coined the phrase, the French Riviera.  After World War II, the south of France became a popular tourist destination and convention site. The area went off the charts in the 1950s when a beautiful girl from Philadelphia moved into the Royal palace of the one and only principality. Millionaires and celebrities built homes there and routinely spent their summers.  The region has one more name. In 1887, a French author named Stéphen Liégeard published a book about the coastline. So taken was he by the color of the Mediterranean, he used the words Azure Coast in the title – in French that translates as Côte d’Azur.”

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THANKSGIVING IN MONACO – 2016

Thanksgiving is over, but the spirit of camaraderie remains.

Knowing this year would be Thanksgiving without Steve, I looked for something to do. Any restaurants in town serving turkey? No. Not that I know of. Then, I saw – The American Club of the Riviera (ACR) was having a Thanksgiving Luncheon at the Café de Paris Monaco.

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I checked out the event and decided to go – time to get out of the condo. The Club is large – expats from all over, not just France. I joined. I asked Andrea and Slav to go with me as my guests. They agreed.

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And, in the spirit of that first Thanksgiving [see article by Art Buchwald, below], we three enjoyed a Champagne Reception and Thanksgiving Feast – French-style.

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Thanksgiving Group Shot.

It was fun, networking and meeting people from all over the world. I was introduced and asked to say a few words.

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The program was given by several people, mainly representatives from the American Military.

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We stood up for three national anthems (U.S., France, and Monaco).

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and ate French “turkey” at an event that has always meant a lot to me. A fun time was had by all. Steve would have loved it.

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Le Grande Thanksgiving  

[This confidential column was leaked to me by a high government official in the Plymouth colony on the condition that I not reveal his name.]

One of our most important holidays is Thanksgiving Day, known in France as le Jour de Merci Donnant.

Le Jour de Merci Donnant was first started by a group of Pilgrims (Pelerins) who fled from l’Angleterre before the McCarran Act to found a colony in the New World (le Nouveau Monde) where they could shoot Indians (les Peaux-Rouges) and eat turkey (dinde) to their hearts’ content.

They landed at a place called Plymouth (now a famous voiture Americaine) in a wooden sailing ship called the Mayflower (or Fleur de Mai) in 1620. But, while the Pelerins were killing the dindes, the Peaux-Rouges were killing the Pelerins, and there were several hard winters ahead for both of them. The only way the Peaux-Rouges helped the Pelerins was when they taught them to grow corn (mais). The reason they did this was because they liked corn with their Pelerins.

In 1623, after another harsh year, the Pelerins’ crops were so good that they decided to have a celebration and give thanks because more mais was raised by the Pelerins than Pelerins were killed by Peaux-Rouges.

Every year on the Jour de Merci Donnant, parents tell their children an amusing story about the first celebration. It concerns a brave capitaine named Miles Standish (known in France as Kilometres Deboutish) and a young, shy lieutenant named Jean Alden. Both of them were in love with a flower of Plymouth called Priscilla Mullens (no translation). The vieux capitaine said to the jeune lieutenant:

“Go to the damsel Priscilla (allez tres vite chez Priscilla), the loveliest maiden of Plymouth (la plus jolie demoiselle de Plymouth). Say that a blunt old captain, a man not of words but of action (un vieux Fanfan la Tulipe), offers his hand and his heart, the hand and heart of a soldier. Not in these words, you know, but this, in short, is my meaning. “I am a maker of war (je suis un fabricant de la guerre) and not a maker of phrases. You, bred as a scholar (vous, qui tes pain comme un tudiant), can say it in elegant language, such as you read in your books of the pleadings and wooings of lovers, such as you think best adapted to win the heart of the maiden.”

Although Jean was fit to be tied (convenable tre emballe), friendship prevailed over love and he went to his duty. But instead of using elegant language, he blurted out his mission. Priscilla was muted with amazement and sorrow (rendue muette par l’tonnement et las tristesse).

At length, she exclaimed, interrupting the ominous silence: “If the great captain of Plymouth is so very eager to wed me, why does he not come himself and take the trouble to woo me?” (Ou est-il, le vieux Kilometres ? Pourquoi ne vient-il pas auprès de moi pour tenter sa chance ?)

Jean said that Kilometres Deboutish was very busy and didn’t have time for those things. He staggered on, telling what a wonderful husband Kilometres would make. Finally, Priscilla arched her eyebrows and said in a tremulous voice, “Why don’t you speak for yourself, Jean?” (Chacun a son gout.)

And so, on the fourth Thursday in November, American families sit down at a large table brimming with tasty dishes and, for the only time during the year, eat better than the French do.

No one can deny that le Jour de Merci Donnant is a grande fete and no matter how well fed American families are, they never forget to give thanks to Kilometres Deboutish, who made this great day possible.     – By Art Buchwald,  Thursday, November 24, 2005  

Best, Jay

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OVER THE HILL, THROUGH THE WOODS….

The woods are on fire. Trees have been hit by lightening bolts. Nature is forcing new growth – whether I like it or not. Well, I don’t like it. It has jolted me out of complacency. Things I took for granted, people I took for granted must never be taken for granted. Time out! Think.  Remember  – this is a time of year I love.

I love fall leaves, fireplaces, pumpkins, chrysanthemums, Thanksgiving. Mother loved it, too. She made each fall season special. Right before school was to start, she would take me shopping for “fall cottons”. That meant we were going to Atlanta and spend the entire day – shopping! Drive down in the morning and return late afternoon. First stop – Muses. There, most of the salesladies knew Mother by name. “Hello, Mrs. Jewell. And, Janet, how nice to see you. What can we help you with?” Boy, did she love that! Plus, Muses was fun because I was rested and ready to try-on everything. Then, on to J.P. Allen (where I usually got shoes and socks), then Davison-Paxon Company’s Tea Room for lunch. Either that, or the S&W Cafeteria. The decision depended on whether Davison’s was having a Fashion Show, or not. I preferred the S&W Cafeteria (even though I loved the fashion shows). It had great chocolate pudding. And, I could choose what I wanted – fried chicken (unless they had fried fish), beans, corn, turnip greens and cornbread (and/or homemade buttered biscuit) plus a dessert. Dessert was problematic because I wanted one of each. Hard to narrow it down unless they had cherry pie. If not, it was chocolate pudding. Late afternoon, we would drive back to Gainesville, exhausted with the trunk full of boxes – new outfits for school – usually plaid dresses.

We also had to get school supplies – a new book satchel, notebook, notebook paper, pencils (No.2), eraser (rubber gum), ruler, plus anything else on the list. We got all of that at The Book Shop. I was happy. Once school started, I was even happier. I loved school. I still love school (witness, starting Law School at age 59 and graduating at age 62, passing the California Bar Exam at age 63). Currently looking around for a University in Nice that has a class with an English-speaking professor, teaching French. I think there is one in Monaco, but I don’t want the commute.

Finally, Thanksgiving was my favorite! Mother pulled out all her pretty things and made a gorgeous table. Fresh flowers everywhere. Relatives would come from all over to be with us that day. And, wonderful Southern dishes would grace our table. All though my life, I have tried to make Thanksgiving special for my family.  Hopefully, I succeeded once or twice. J  I would set a gorgeous table with fresh flowers. Use my silver goblets and good china. Cook for several days. A typical Thanksgiving meal at our home would be turkey, dressing, giblet gravy, sweet potato souffle, wild rice, petite English peas, celery sticks, carrot sticks, olives, spiced peaches, cranberry sauce, and boiled custard with Waldorf Astoria cake (very chocolaty) for dessert. I knew how to make all of Mother’s dishes (she got from Mama Dorough who got from Grandma Eliza) and succeeded with most. I never could get my dressing or giblet gravy to be as good as hers, but it wasn’t for lack of trying. And, most Thanksgivings, we invited guests. It was fun. For years, my daughter helped me cook. The boys liked it, too.

This year, I must focus on thoughts and memories that make me feel good. At least – this week, I must. Probably next week, too. And, the next. I miss Steve. I miss my kids. Current events are no help. But, letting up is not giving up. It is just a time to re-group. The thought for today speaks to me: “At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person, each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.”  – Albert Schweitzer.

Thank you, Mother.

Thank you, Trascey, Craig, and Blake.

Thank you, My Darling Steve.

Thank you, Friends and Extended Family.

Best, Jay

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THANKSGIVING BLESSINGS

To my Family and Friends, thank you very much for your donation(s). I have tried to write a personal note to each one of you. Don’t think I missed anyone. I hope not. It has meant the world to me. Truly. Making the best of things has been difficult. If you have seen my profile pictures of late, you’ve noticed my sunglasses. That is on purpose – to hide my (sad) eyes. Eyes tell the story. As an actress, I worked to tell the story in my eyes so the camera would pick up belief. Not disbelief. It has not been easy, asking for help. These after-death problems have been complex. And, they are not over. On the contrary, I am still working with hospitals and insurance companies, trying to negotiate my way out of a mess. Yet, we are all working our way out of a mess of some kind or other – especially now. So, at this Thanksgiving time, let’s all pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and start all over again. If you are willing, donations are still in order. Keep that bucket list going. Look for things to be thankful for. Meanwhile, I will put on a happy face, maybe sunglasses, maybe not, and post roses. Again, thank you from me and Steve.  Happy Thanksgiving!   https://www.gofundme.com/2g4wsbx7

Best, Jay

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BULLIES

Remember Kaleidoscopes? Did you have one? I did. I would sit, peering through a peep hole and watch the different designs as I turned the scope. When I lived through earthquakes in California, I thought each time about my kaleidoscope. It was like the earth was “shifting” – especially during the Northridge Earthquake. And, if I had a peep hole, I could watch the different designs. This time, I am not watching. Rather, I am inside the kaleidoscope, being shifted as someone else turns the scope, powerless to stop irreversible change. The United States of America has elected a bully to its highest office, disregarding everything previously held sacred.

Frankly, I keep blocking the truth. I spend hours, looking for information and evaluations. In the old days, I would ask Steve. He knew. He spent hours, watching TV and pundits and news programs. So much so that I frequently got on his case, accusing him of living in his head. Still in LA. Or Boston. Or Sarasota, Florida. Now, I am doing the same thing. How can I not? I am still a California attorney licensed to practice law in the State of California. My heart is still fighting bullies in the employment arena,  helping victims of discrimination, wrongful termination, harassment, retaliation, whistle-blowing, and such. That’s why I can hardly believe what I am hearing and reading – a bully has come to power. I read articles on Facebook, on the Internet, watch television, listen to radio – the BBC, CNN, Riviera Radio, Sky News – trying to get a feel for what is happening.

I am no longer in disbelief. Not after reality check after reality check. In my despair, I talk to Steve in absentia. We have conversations – like in the past when we talked, laughed, cried, and held each other. I am on my own with this one. Lots of platitudes are out there. My favorite quote is Anna Eleanor Roosevelt’s “You gain courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing which come along.’  …You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” That quote got me through law school, the California Bar Exam, and a lot of trials (and tribulations). It doesn’t work in this situation. I am not afraid. Quite the contrary. I am emboldened to speak out and take action.

Donald Trump is a bully. In fact, he is a bully of bullies, or so he says. I did not vote for him. Nor would I ever. He is a revolting man to me. I voted for Hilary. I have admired her since I was a young woman. She lost. I can take losses. This loss is different. It is bigger than elections. It involves country. After January, I don’t think my country will have my back. A bully will be at the helm. I have seen firsthand what damage bullies can do. Bullies harm little guys. Employees get kicked by bully supervisors who got kicked by managers. Passing damage and destructive behavior down the line. You and I, as little guys, can look forward to getting kicked. We have a bully coming on board as manager. And he will bring in bully supervisors to help him. And we, as employees, won’t like what happens. Mark my words.

PLEASE TAKE NOTICE, destructive behavior passes down. Here, it is starting at the top. Our President-Elect has promised to do things endorsed by bully organizations and ratified by “good, intelligent” people, “Christian” people, claiming the President-Elect is the answer to their prayers. What were they praying for? Apparently, they got it. I tried giving my opinions and suggestions to a few people on Facebook. Didn’t work. Got blocked. I do better posting pictures of roses. Big Brother is watching.

Best, Jay

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