RED LETTER DAYS

I keep taking a step at a time and scaring myself each time.  Haha!  This week has been a “doozy” (Family expression), saying to myself, “Well, when Isis attacks Paris after the Battle of Normandy, I hope I am not shopping at Chanel that day!” I keep thinking that cooler heads will prevail. NOT.  A “friend” said to me two years ago, “Give him a chance.” NO. On an international news interview, one Trump supporter said, “Oh, that’s just Trump being Trump. His sense of humor.” This is a non-commentary cartoon, in answer, 
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AND, it’s Halloween! Where is my cellphone ?
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The Mini Cooper (2005/2015 – 2019) 
On October 9, 2015, my Steve and I, along with our new “best friends” who helped us do everything, Slav and Andrea, went car shopping.  Steve and Slav are car experts.  So, is Andrea, sort of.  I went along for the ride.  The backstory is this: 
In LA, Steve drove a BMW Z4, and I had a 2007 BMW convertible.  We sold both of them to help finance our move to France on October 1, 2015.  Shortly after our arrival, Slav found a 2005 Mini Cooper on a used car lot near Nice, and Steve wanted to get it.  75,000 (46,000+ miles) kilometers on it.  We LOVED it and bought it, driving it home that day.
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During the 11 months before Steve died, we took a lot of road trips, planning one exploratory weekend after another.  When he died in August 2016 , our next trip was to be in October 2016 to Portofino, Italy. These are pictures taken during a trip to Villefrance sur Mer and St. Tropez. 
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Since that time, I have not put a lot of miles on the Mini.  It currently has 78,000 kilometers (48,000 miles). And, on Thursday, I turned over the keys for Slav to sell  because I no longer have a Drivers License.  My California license expired on my birthday this year (March 30, 2019) and I need to get my French license.  I tried to take the Code de la Route Test before my second knee replacement operation but had difficulty with paperwork.  Since that time, I have made the decision to move to PARIS.  I don’t need or want a car in Paris.  So, ……. on October 10, 2019,  I said goodbye to the Mini.  
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Will I ever have a license again?  Maybe.  I don’t know.  The buses and trains in France are excellent, so we will see how it goes.  
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Needless to say, October 9, 2015 ,and October 10, 2019, are RED LETTER DAYS!  Milestones in MY lifetime.  But, this meme says it all for me as I face tomorrow, today.
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BEST, JAY
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THROUGH MY EYES …..

Those who know me know that I am not afraid of change.  And, of late, I have been craving change of location – namely Paris.  So as I begin the process of tackling all the matters that must be handled prior to a move, I found this post on Facebook.  It makes sense to me – biased as I am!!!  Especially since I have no one to oppose me but the cat!!!  So, today, because I am dizzy from all of the conversations that are filling my head throughout the day and night, I will give you something to ponder (other than what I think about something). Haha.  Women will probably agree with a lot of the things that the writer suggests (Another biased woman? … even though Coughlin is a man.)  Men, on the other hand, will continue to make their choices about the best ways a woman can use her time and body.  Just sayin…….  “I love you [anyway], Chipper!”  

This article was originally published on “Today Health & Wellness”.  By  Agnes Pawlowski  

“If you’re a woman with a bit of life experience, you already know you’re the boss.  You’re more likely to drive health care decisions in your family, control household spending, care for millennials and elders, start a business and initiate a divorce. You have the longevity advantage over men.

In other words, you rule.

But does the world know it? Older women can sometimes feel like they’re invisible to workplaces and businesses, but they’re actually the trailblazers others should be watching, says Joseph F. Coughlin, director of the AgeLab at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology and author of the new book, “The Longevity Economy: Unlocking the World’s Fastest-Growing, Most Misunderstood Market.”  As people get older, the future is female, he argues, with women better prepared for life after middle age than their male peers.  “One of the greatest under-appreciated sources of innovation and new business may in fact be women over 50 with new ideas, lots of life ahead of them and with the verve to get it done,” Coughlin told TODAY.

He explained why older women will rule the world, why the future is female:

Coughlin: Women do more. They have more education than at any time in history. They’re likely to live longer.  A woman is the researcher of the house. Women are far more likely to go online not just to do research for themselves, but be the go-to researcher for millennials, who identify their middle-aged mothers as their best friend.

She is the caregiver-in-chief. Women are caring for more parents than they had ever planned — their parents as well as their in-laws. Getting to 100 is so common now that we see birthday cards in the drugstore for centenarians. There may be three or four generations under the care of one matriarch.

A woman is the chief consumer officer of the house. She’s the one who knows what groceries are bought, what bills are being paid, how that house actually works. The majority of car purchases are directly influenced or done by women. If they’re luxury cars, the numbers go up even more. Home improvement is directed by the woman. Probably most striking is that 80-90 cents on the dollar of every healthcare decision is made by a woman.

Because of all these factors, she is likely to be the person who is closest to understanding what the new jobs and the opportunities of living longer, better are going to be.

Older women are driving relationships:

Coughlin: The number one divorce rate in the country is among the 50-plus, mostly initiated by the woman.  When we talk to men about what they think retirement is going to be, it’s almost celebratory: If they’ve saved their money, they see it as a time to play golf, take that trip, buy that new car. And they often talk about spending time with their wives.

I can’t tell you how many women have told me, ‘I don’t know who this man is on my couch but I wish he would just go and get a job. I have routines, I have things to do and he’s always there and he’s always asking me what to do next.’

I think men, particularly those of us over 50, need to up our game. We really have to take a lesson from women that life is more than work; that we need to develop new interests and keep that romance going.

The relationship began decades earlier based upon what you brought to the table and what you created together. Suddenly in older age, men get so caught into a routine — partly because of our employment and lifestyle — that they forget that they need to continue to be exciting and delighting.

Older women are changing the workplace:  Coughlin: The new women’s movement is entrepreneurship.  When you’re young, you’re willing to join a large corporation and put up with the bureaucracy.

You do not have the patience to put up with that later on. [Right on!!] By the time you’re 40, 50 or 60, chances are you’ve raised a family, managed a home, you’ve got an education, and you have already done your corporate gig.  [Note – That is when I went to Law School]

What we’re starting to see is that older women may be hitting a wall in many major corporations, and that is the corporations’ loss. They are becoming engines of innovation in their own right by starting consulting companies, new stores and online sites.  Coughlin: Save money. Try to amass as many resources as possible.  [Move to Paris!!!]

Take a cue from your mother’s generation and recognize social connections are as important as your financial wellbeing. Maintain that network of support — not just of people who can do something for you, but something that gives you meaning to life and engagement over the long term.  Ask yourself: What are the little things that make you smile every day? Do you have access to them? Can you afford them?  [Oops.]  More importantly, can you identify them? Things that will give you quality of life over 100 years, not just the ability to live 100 years.” [Welllll, the ability helps – and the genes….]

By Agnes Pawlowski (originally published on “Today Health & Wellness”)

OK, I will admit, I want to live to be 111, like Mama Dorough. I am STILL trying to afford myself and move to Paris.  (sigh)  Stay tuned…….

Best, Jay

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FAVORITE PHOTOSHOOT PHOTOS

Last Thursday, I did a SeaTrek and took a lot of photographs.  I posted some of them on last week’s Jayspeak, but I did not always select my favorites.  So, in this post, I am selecting my favorites – just for fun!  I have no criteria for which ones I include.  Just my own love for photography these days.  Feel free to tell me which ones you like in the “comment” section. Thanks.

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BEST, JAY

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THREE-MONTH SEATREK PHOTOSHOOT

On Thursday of last week, September 26, 2019, I celebrated my 3-month anniversary since my second knee surgery and walked 3.5 miles, going along a route that I walked before both of my knee surgeries (the first terrible surgery was exactly one year ago – September 27, 2018 – Ugh!  I did not know if I would be able to do it because that is where the new tram is going in.  Plus, it has some up-and-downhill walking.  But, I decided to try.  I took a lot of pictures so here goes…..  A pictorial post of my route – down Rue de Lepante, past the butcher shop, the wine store, the newsstand store, the souvenirs in the window, the square (also called “round-about”), a pumpkin in a health food restaurant/store, the Police Station, a local park for the kids…..

through the Contemporary Art Museum across Place Garibaldi….  (all of these things have names, but you get the idea….) to the Tram construction cut-through….

 Down the hill to the Port, past the antique market to the Sea, ready for breakfast.  

 

THEN, across the street, up the hill, past the WWI monument, to my favorite walkway past the Nice Sign by the Sea and past the Hotel Swisse onto the Promenade

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And, through the Arches into the Flower/Vegetable Market…..

Past the fruits and vegetables and the gorgeous flowers and artworks…..

By the Hall of Justice and the Fountain….

Then, the long walk home.  I decided to skip cheating on the tram.  I got a coffee along the way and made it without problem. 3.5 miles.  I have a lot more pictures (because I had both hands free for the camera), but this is enough for one sitting.  Needless to say, I was very happy to have done my favorite walk.  I stopped to sit a lot, but that’s ok.  And, I have gotten lots of rest this weekend.  So, this weekend is a 2-post Jayspeak. But, I wanted to do both.  I don’t look so hot, so no selfies, but that was not the goal.  Anyway, stay tuned……

Best,  Jay

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SEPTEMBER SELECTIONS – 2019

Well, so much is going on the the USA, in England, and in France, I don’t know where to start!  Plus, I “overdid” this week and have exhausted my poor body by walking 3.5 miles (not kilometers) on Thursday and 2.9 miles yesterday.  I did it, but I am here to tell you that I must have the left knee done before too much more time has passed.  It needs help and is talking to me. UGH!!!!  So, this is a rest day, AND, there is a huge Yellow Vest demonstration in town, so I am home for the day. 

As Steve would say, “But, enough about me. What do you think of me?”  Get it?  This is a joke!  I am not seriously asking you what you think of me.  

Back to the task at hand —  The weather is GLORIOUS in Nice.  I love these September days when the weather is just right!!  Not too hot. Not too cold.  Just right. (Reminds me of a favorite fairy tale which reminds me of a cartoon I saved this week…..

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So, today, I will relax by posting one of my favorite threads on Jayspeak – my NON-Commentary Cartoons and Selected Memes, e.g. “Signs of the Times”.   My thanks to the original posters on Facebook.  As you know, I save the ones I like!  (WARNING!!!!! The Cartoons and Memes you see may be offensive!)

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And, now for a few MEMES!!

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And, a few dedicated to Missy and others pets……

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And, One “Food for Thought” that gives me comfort!

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Best,  Jay 

…..and my Favorite Event Planner in Nice, Andrea Emond.

P.S. On Tuesday, I celebrate my 4-year Anniversary of my time in Nice, France, on October 1, 2015.  I met Andrea online six years ago, and she and her husband Slav help Steve and me adjust to a new life.  We have remained friends.

 

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ENLARGE YOUR UNIVERSE – – – SAY “YES!

***Cliché’s have always been a part of my vocabulary.  Why?  Because Daddy was ALWAYS saying a cliché, or a catchy slogan, or a joke, or a byline, or a …..  You get the picture.  One of his favorites was “The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence.”  And “Go to it!”, and “Rough Seas Make Good Sailors”, and “Think Outside the Box”.

Then, as my life progressed, I added my own.  “Just Keep Taking the Next Step” and “Don’t Push the River; It Flows by Itself”.  “Good Girls Don’t Get Ahead; Gutsy Girls Do!” And, “Simplify!” When I started practicing law, I found that clichés were flowing into my mind as I was writing declarations and briefs.  Haha.  Uh, NO.  That made me put into words the cliché’s that were flowing into my brain.

So the cliché (or byline or whatever you want to call it) for today’s symposium is “Enlarge Your Universe – Say YES!”, e.g “Think Outside the Box.”  When I was in my 30’s and obsessing about making it as an actress, a wise woman told me that my universe was too small.  I needed to enlarge my universe – to think about something much bigger than myself.  I wasn’t sure what she meant, but I didn’t care really.  I had more important things on my mind than a large universe, especially since I had just moved from Gainesville, Georgia to Los Angeles, California.  That was universe enough!

Today is a different story.   I find myself trying to shrink my universe. NOOOOO. Stop!  Now is not the time to get scared and stay home to “be safe”.  Now is the time to think outside the box, to find new ways of doing things while letting go of others.  Go places, do new things, learn, grow.  Ok, granted there are boundaries and limitations galore, but figure it out.  Stay open.

BE A GUTSY GIRL.  Now, what I mean by “gutsy” at the age of 82, doesn’t mean what it would mean to me if I were 42 or 52 or 62.  Haha. But, being gutsy to me means taking piano lessons, going alone to listen to jazz at night, singing in the shower even if the neighbors can hear.  Being gutsy to me now means getting to the train station (without a cane), taking a high-speed train by myself to Paris (5 1/2 hours), then taking a taxi to a section of Paris on the left bank, walking without a cane to do all of it, and living out of one little carry-on.  I don’t think that I have travelled this much in my life – alone. Or taken one little carry-on.  And, this is definitely the first time that I have had difficulty with steps and walking.  With my husband or a friend, piece of cake.  Alone (for me) after surgery is another story.

Now, you may think some of these fears that I am working through are silly.  But, I don’t. Yet, I am determined to conquer these fears and move to Paris, France.  I have a sign on the refrigerator that says, “Keep taking the next step.”  So, I find if I act “as if” I know what I am doing and work through the complications (updating my Visa, selling my car, preparing the piano, finding an apartment, hiring movers, furnish v. unfurnished, the cat- Missy, learning arrondissements, plus…), I find myself moving ahead.  Haha.  So, I keep getting estimates for things and “thinking about it”.  But, it is time to commit. (a cliché comes to mind but I will refrain…..”  ____ or get off the pot”)  Time and funds are limited. And, the world is a mess. “But, if not now, when???”  (See what I mean???)

In the middle of the night, when my mind is in worry-mode, I find myself singing lyrics from  songs.  Last night, I was wrestling over a decision that needs to be made, and I found myself singing (in my head) a song I had used a lot in my Act when I performed in small clubs around LA – “Say Yes”.  So, this morning, I made the decision.  I said, “Yes.”  I don’t know who wrote the song, but the one and only Liza Minelli sang it in “Liza With a Z”

One Night. One Chance. One Liza (With a ‘Z’).

Bob Fosse’s 1972 film of Liza Minnelli at the Lyceum Theater remains a spellbinding document of the art of performance.

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Here are the lyrics:

Yes,
Say, “Yes.”
Life keeps happenin’ every day.
Say, “Yes.”

When opportunity comes your way,
You can’t start wonderin’ what to say.
You’ll never win if you never play.
Say, “Yes.”

There’s mink and Marigold right outside
And warm white Cadillacs you can ride.
Nothin’s gained if there’s nothin’ tried.
Say, “Yes.”

Don’t say, “Why?”
Say, “Why not?”
What lies beyond what is, is not.
So what, say, “Yes…”

“Yes, I can.” “Yes, I’ll touch”
“Yes, I’d like to do ‘such and such’.”
Yes, I’ll try.”  “Yes, I’ll dare.”

“Yes, I’ll fly.” “Yes. I’ll share.”

Yes, I’d happily, Thank You very much.”

“Yes.”  Oh Yes.  Oh, Yes…

There’s lots of chaff. But, there’s lots of wheat
Say, “Yes.”
You might get mugged as you walk the streets.
But on the other hand you might greet
That handsome stranger you’ve longed to meet.
Say, “Yes…”
“Yes I am.”  “Yes, I’ll be.”

“Yes, I’ll go…
Oh Yes…
Yes.

*** (Disclaimer – These posts will be about moving to Paris for a while because I obsess during times of action.  I don’t want to be Chekovian – like the characters in Chekhov’s  “Three Sisters”, longing to go to Moscow, but this process won’t be fast.  If you don’t want to read about my obsession during the time of my move to Paris, don’t read this blog. But, at some point, I will be LIVING in Paris.  Sorry.  I have been this way all my life, so I doubt I will stop now. Haha.   Oh, by the way, I have gotten a LOT of things done during my lifetime.   Just sayin’…….)

Best, Jay (And an old headshot just for fun!! AND, my ego……..)

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FRIDAY 13TH SEATREK, FINALLY!! aka “A Day in the Life”i

Last week, I took a break! There was a LOT going on in the world.  Yes, I was despondent (sigh), but I am back with renewed vim and vitality!!! Sorta.  So, on Friday, the 13th following 9/11, I decided to walk to the Sea whether I felt like it or not.  And, I was NOT allowed to cheat.  (Cheating is taking the tram there and back. Haha).  Well, maybe I could take the tram one way, but I must walk without a cane one way.  No tram.  So, I did!!!  The good news is that walking without a cane frees one hand for my camera.  Lots of photos.  The bad news is that I often forget to take pictures.  WHAT????  How can a person forget to take a picture, especially if that is one of the  important goals, alongside no tram? Because I am focusing on walking normally (if possible), and I am still unstable some of the time (not all of the time).  So, I did the best I could.  I walked to the Sea, had breakfast, and took the tram back.  “A Day in the Life”  And, I took photos.  YES!!!    Take a look!!

I started out from my apartment, walked by the Bank and got some cash, and then took back streets for a few blocks.  En route, I passed by JP Pac’s Chocolate Shop and a Bridal Store.  PHOTO-OPS!

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Before I cut over to the main drag (JEAN DE MEDICIN), I went by a bus stop (haha), the side door of Galleries Lafayette (for no good reason), plus shooting a photo of a restaurant I like (Cafe Nissa).  It is colorful.

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Then, I shot a photo of a Brinks truck (hoping no one would get shot while I was taking a picture) – for no good reason other than to have a record of my being there in case……

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Crossed the Place de Masséna , shot a rear-view of David (because I was in the shade)

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Took a side view of the restaurant La Petite Maison, setting up for lunch ($$$)…

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Walked up the hill, shot some plants (for no good reason, and VOILA!!

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AND now, Ladies and Gentlemen, it gives me great pleasure to present THE SEA!!!  No cane.  No tram.  YES!!

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OK, now for breakfast!! while passing vendors selling plants. I have a place I like (for no good reason), Milena.

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After that, I wandered into Old Town (forgetting to take photos), buying a purse, a hat (both on sale), and some lavender soap.  I then got the tram and went back home – VERY PROUD OF MYELF!!  2.6 miles !!! These are a couple of additional pictures I took, for no good reason other than I liked the shots.  99DA5F62-A588-49C3-9633-A84C1E0639DAIMG-0459

The rest of the day, I did nothing except worry about the state of the world (my normal activity) along with problems to solve while trying to move to Paris and re-learning how to walk!!  I also need to get back my “photographer’s eye”.  Oops.  Actually, I had a VERY IMPORTANT topic to cover “Watch and Learn – or not”.  That will be shelved for another day, along with “Think Outside the Box” and “Expand your Universe”.

Remember this?  (singing) “So long for awhile; that’s all the songs for awhile; so long to your Hit Parade, and the tunes that you picked to be played.  So long.  (sigh)  Ah-h-h-h-, the good ole days!!!

Best, Jay  (au natural in Sons and Saveurs)

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“THREE YEARS LATER – Remembering…

I know.  I know.  I said I was not going to write anything today.  And, here I am.  But, I have some thoughts that I want to share.  Plus, writing brings me comfort.  And, if you find this a tad “schmaltzy” (is that a word…), thank you in advance for bearing with me.

Three years ago today, my husband, Steve Orlandella, lay in the hospital with tubes and machines running full-time. He had been that way for most of August, going in and out of consciousness. During that time, medicine controlled double pneumonia. Yet, his lungs would not work. Neither would his heart. He remained in ICU around-the-clock. Toward the end of August, the doctors suggested performing a tracheotomy to help him survive.  I assumed he would survive.  So, when they transported him to Hopital L’Archet to perform that procedure, I stood by, waiting for news.  

On the morning of August 31, 2016, (a Wednesday, around 9:00 a.m.) my cell phone rang.  It was a nurse, calling from the hospital. Could I come to the hospital at 2:00 p.m?  The doctors wanted to talk to me. I assumed they were calling about the procedure. At 2:00 p.m., I met with four doctors, who were facing me in a semi-circle.  The oldest one spoke. At first, I waited for him to say what I thought he would say.  He did not say it.  Instead, he began describing Steve’s heart to me, showing me what it was doing and not doing. They could not perform the tracheotomy.  He would not survive that procedure.  In fact, he would not survive. 

After that, I don’t remember much of what any of them said.  It was a lot of medical jargon.  I just knew I was being told that Steve would die that afternoon.  They asked me if I wanted to spend a couple of hours with him before they disconnected the machines.  I said yes.  I went into his room.  Just then, one of the machines tried to start his heart with a jolt.  When I looked at him, I knew.  He was not there. 

Believe me, each year since then has been rough.  Last year, I flew with his ashes to Boston for burial.  And, today, I went on a long walk, remembering.  I walked by places that we went together.  Every (most every) Sunday.  And, it was bittersweet.  I was happy my legs felt strong and sad that my life with Steve is over.  Well, not really.  He will always be a part of me.  “Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.”    ~ Rumi

And, of course, I made a movie of the day.  Click here on this live link.  Hopefully, it will work for you.  It should.  I bought this new hat and some new sunglasses today.  This sun is intense!  Right now, it is 86 outside.  “Feels like 89”.  

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MY BEST FRIEND

One Week from today, on August 31, 2016 (3 years ago), I lost my best friend.  His name was/is Steve Orlandella (August 11, 1950 – August 31, 2016).  Today, I plan to share some thoughts with you.  I won’t be writing about him next week.  I plan to use that day to remember.  Not write. 

We had a rocky relationship at first.  We met in June 1993, as a result of a “fluke”.  I happened to be at Dodger Stadium to present a painting to Oral Hershiser for Very Special Arts California. Steve was there with a cameraman, assigned to shoot the presentation.  I did not like that he was making me wait, and wait, and wait.  So, I let him know what I thought about him, the painting, and Oral Hershiser.  To “apologize”, he asked me to dinner.  I went.  And, from there, the relationship waxed and waned (mostly waned) until 2004. 

In 2004, the relationship began to wax, and on August 7, 2005, we got married.  For eleven fun years, we laughed, had fun, made love, and worked through lots of problems together.  We even moved to Nice, France, on a whim – for fun! 

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And, we had fun together until August 2, 2016.  He collapsed with double pneumonia.   Thinking it was temporary, we survived that month of August 2016 with him in the hospital and my visiting, wanting to know when he could come home. Somehow, we would get through this together.

It did not happen.  He died.  I am not sure when he actually died because I knew he was gone when I saw him that day in the hospital on August 31, 2016.  He was no longer in that body.  I stayed in denial throughout.  I was glad that we talked a lot about things because I knew what he wanted me to do. He knew what I wanted him to do “in case.”  The doctors in France were supposed to ask me when to cut off the machines.  They told me – 4 of them.  I don’t remember being asked about much of anything.  However, I saw them do everything they could to save his life.  His heart failed. So, the machines were no problem.  He was gone. 

I need to let this go.  It has been three years already.  I need to live while I still can.  I saw a meme this week that says it all.

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I also tried to encourage a Facebook friend who recently lost her son and another friend who is having difficulty downsizing. Then, I realized that I don’t really know either one of them.  I am talking to myself.  I am now “my best friend”.  This is what I said to one of them (omitting her name and remembering how difficult it was for me at first).  That is when I realized that I was talking to myself:

“Don’t try to celebrate (on your birthday). Mourn all day if you have to. Don’t put demands or expectations on anything. Isolate yourself if necessary.  Cry all day. It will get better. Not yet. Too soon.  It is a time for mourning.  Don’t look to others. They trivialize the pain – which is very real and cannot be explained. Or shared. Trust me. It gets better.  Think of yourself. Not _____. He is dead. Gone. Never to return. You are alive. It is your responsibility to relearn how to live. After a major setback. You need to re-examine how you are going to use the time you have to do what you want before it is too late. Health is precarious. ______ had a health problem.  Live for both of you. Take him along for the ride.  Inside you.  Forget celebrations for now.”

Lesson learned.  I must not try to encourage anyone.  I am still working on my own situation.  Everyone’s suffering is different.  And especially now, when the entire world is literally and figuratively in chaos. 

So, those are a few of my thoughts as I prepare to change my life.  It is time for me to relearn how to live.   I am not sure how, but I don’t plan to stay in Nice.  I do not plan to return to the United States.  No, I am going to try to find a place for me in Paris.  That is where it all started – in August, 1957 (long story).  It is time to resume a theme that has run throughout my life since I was twelve!!!  As I have said before, “If not now, when?”  

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Charles Dickens comes to mind. Maybe it is time to re-read his “Tale of Two Cities”:  It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way”.  

WOW!  Sound familiar?  I will explain a lot of this in another post at some point in time – maybe.  But, in the meantime, here are two more memes that speak to me.  Life is special. Remember.  

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Best, Jay  

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Something to Think About

This is Charlie Chaplin at age 26, photographed 100 years ago. It’s believed he wrote the poem below at age 70.

He read the poem – however it was written by author Kim McMillen. Completely beautiful no matter what. Xxx

As I began to love myself

I found that anguish and emotional suffering

are only warning signs that I was living

against my own truth.

Today, I know, this is Authenticity.

As I began to love myself

I understood how much it can offend somebody

if I try to force my desires on this person,

even though I knew the time was not right

and the person was not ready for it,

and even though this person was me.

Today I call this Respect.

As I began to love myself

I stopped craving for a different life,

and I could see that everything

that surrounded me

was inviting me to grow.

Today I call this Maturity.

As I began to love myself

I understood that at any circumstance,

I am in the right place at the right time,

and everything happens at the exactly right moment.

So I could be calm.

Today I call this Self-Confidence.

As I began to love myself

I quit stealing my own time,

and I stopped designing huge projects

for the future.

Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness,

things I love to do and that make my heart cheer,

and I do them in my own way

and in my own rhythm.

Today I call this Simplicity.

As I began to love myself

I freed myself of anything

that is no good for my health –

food, people, things, situations,

and everything that drew me down

and away from myself.

At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.

Today I know it is Love of Oneself.

As I began to love myself

I quit trying to always be right,

and ever since

I was wrong less of the time.

Today I discovered that is Modesty.

As I began to love myself

I refused to go on living in the past

and worrying about the future.

Now, I only live for the moment,

where everything is happening.

Today I live each day,

day by day,

and I call it Fulfillment.

As I began to love myself

I recognized

that my mind can disturb me

and it can make me sick.

But as I connected it to my heart,

my mind became a valuable ally.

Today I call this connection Wisdom of the Heart.

We no longer need to fear arguments,

confrontations or any kind of problems

with ourselves or others.

Even stars collide,

and out of their crashing, new worlds are born.

Today I know: This is Life!

POETRY

| WRITTEN BY KRAGE

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